Accept it as it is instead if you want to live wisely and joyously. It's not meant to diminish its sanctity, but if you give it too much romantic illusion, it might crash one day. We don't suggest that it's a functional and social setting.
Indeed, everything we tell ourselves is a product of human interaction. If you believe that we wrote this to get your attention, think again. Marriages are not made in heaven ! trust us.